Good to discuss this today in counselling and it confirmed, this is indeed very unwise. BS, in fact. I’ve always known this and know this BS spouted about unconditional love, is often abused for harm.
There is a lot love does not tolerate, condone, or ignore.
People’s behaviour and motivations, matter.
Continually unhealthy, toxic, selfish, harmful behaviours – should not be tolerated. And people need to be accountable and responsible for their behaviours.
‘You must love me unconditionally’ is what unhealthy people will demand. This is the demand of abusive people.
Healthy boundaries and having standards for behaviours, are healthy and what healthy people will require of others.
Whilst people may have good intentions in stating ‘unconditional love’ is needed, they are in fact seeing this in a very black and white manner and not seeing the implications of this, and how this belief is abused by unhealthy people.