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When an apology, is not an apology at all. Brisbane Grammar School – Royal Commission.

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Just saw this on the news. Someone who failed many boys at this school, enabling a paedophile to abuse many boys, knowing it was occurring and kept the paedophile on staff…..stated at the Royal Commission…

“If an apology will make them feel better, then I apologise”.

This is not a genuine apology. If is a forced apology, with no genuine intent. It is a ‘I have to apologise, because I am being made to’ – fake apology.

There was no apology prior to being forced to confront this by the Royal Commission. Prior to this, the boys abused, have never received an apology, or any acknowledgement of their pain and suffering and the failure of those who were meant to protect them.

Shame on every single person who has ever failed to protect children, knowing they are being abused in this most horrific way. Destroying lives, some destroyed to the extent it leads to suicides. Others having the entire lives so severely affected.

Shame on every single school, church, children’s/youth organisation etc – who choose to consider their image and reputation – as a greater need, than the safety of our most vulnerable in society.

And yes, they do need to feel shame. Because what they have done, is disgusting and has led to such deep suffering.

I have suspicions about the people who knew this paedophile was abusing boys, and failed to deal with it. Maybe they themselves, are the same. Often people protecting paedophiles, have those same sick minds.

Any normal, healthy person, would investigate all claims of sexual abuse, and wish to protect children. And do everything necessary.

Unhealthy, sick, toxic people don’t. They allow it to happen, enable it, encourage it.

And shame on the unhealthy people who make excuses for all these people.

These people all made choices to do what they did.

Child sexual abuse – is never condonable, never excusable.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “When an apology, is not an apology at all. Brisbane Grammar School – Royal Commission.

  1. What a shame. A lot of lives changed, a lot of burdens created.