Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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I find it quite bizarre how so many people can believe Buddhism is about compassion.

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There is an increasing belief in society, that Buddhism is all about compassion. I’ve studied it, and know how far from the truth that is. I am so thankful to have the capacity to have worked that out.

I was told by an ordained Buddhist monk, that I was abused so badly in childhood, because I “must have done something bad in a previous life, to deserve this bad karma”. So it was my own fault. In Buddhism there is no other explanation to child abuse.

If anyone believes ‘that’ is compassion, or even rational thinking, they are deluded.

This is absolute crap and emotional abuse, to suggest a child ‘deserves’ to be abused, because of a supposed past life, that no-one can even prove existed.

The ONLY reason I was abused, was absolutely nothing to do with me. It was about the deep issues and dark hearts of those who made choices to abuse me. I am not in ANY way responsible for it, and neither is any other abuse survivor.

Buddhism, is nothing more than victim blaming/shaming and not wanting people who do wrong, to take responsibility. It takes away the need for responsibility and the need to take any action against abusive people and people who do wrong, and it become a very convenient ‘easy way out’ to doing nothing. Very appealing to many, who don’t want to choose action and courage. And would rather avoid and be apathetic.

“I don’t have to do anything about an abuser, because karma will do it for me”. Really? Very convenient. Very lazy. Very irrational. And if that abusive person harms someone else, because I ignored dealing with, well… that is that victims karma. Wow.

Karma, is not even rational thinking. There is no rational basis to it. It is magical thinking.

And there seems to be mass appeal to the idea that is someone wrongs you, they will get their karma. It’s that deep need in many to want retribution and retaliation. And ‘karma’ gives this kind of mind, this false concept that this will happen.

It also gives this false idea, that if you do good, good will come to you. Which is quite bizarre to the rational mind. There is no proof and no guarantee that doing good, will mean good will come back to you.

And really, how self absorbed. How about doing good, because it’s the right thing to do. Not because you want something good back.

It also serves the mind of someone who wants to believe that whatever they think, must be true. Regardless of how irrational.

Buddhism is actually quite narcissistic and very self serving.

And that is then considered compassion. Please.

I continually see Buddhism and the Dalai Lama being touted as ‘compassion’ and this is so untrue.

But, you cannot tell people who wish to engage in irrational thinking, and cannot think to any depth.

Anyone who believes Buddhism and karma are about compassion, are fools. And anyone spouting that at abuse victims, is being abusive.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle.

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