These terrible murders committed in Paris, have led to a lot of posts and quotes on social media.
One popular one, is a quote about ‘looking for the helpers’. Which I understand, but this is purely one of those ‘don’t focus on unpleasant things, and just focus on the nice stuff’ quotes. To make life easier.
I won’t do that, because the people who’s lives have been forever changed, those who are grieving and are traumatised – need people to NOT ignore them. They need people to stand with them, to know they are suffering and are traumatised. They need support. They need love. They need compassion. They do not need ignoring.
So, I will focus on both. The people helping, but I will not ignore the unpleasant and horrendous consequences of these murders.
I have empathy, so I will not avoid, ignore, filter out the unpleasant to try to make this situation ‘better’ than it is.