In counselling, we discussed trust and how not to even trust a church minister, until they have proven their trustworthiness. And how trust is only built in a healthy way… slowly.
There is no doubt, that my boundaries, have been a work in progress and continue to be. But, I learn by my mistakes.
I’ve made mistakes trusting people too soon, or not having healthy personal boundaries with new people in my life. And giving away too much of myself, too quickly. I’ve made unwise choices, and even recently, this has shown to be something I still need to work on.
So, I have been reflecting about social media. I have become Facebook friends with a group of people recently, that I barely know. So, upon reflection, why I am letting basically strangers into my private space, on social media, on my own personal facebook account?
It is not a wise decision, to have people I barely know, and have had maybe one or two group conversations with, into my personal life. It’s common to do that on social media, but still not healthy, or wise.
So, those I have not yet built up any relationship with, and therefore no trust, are now set as acquaintances. I don’t want to unfriend them, but I will utilise the facebook privacy settings. And those acquaintances won’t see any of my posts, or any of my family photos etc, until I know them better.
Only people I actually know, and have some level of relationship with and trust, will be allowed into my personal space.
When reflecting more, I wouldn’t let a stranger into my home, so why would I allow a stranger, into my personal life on social media?
And I won’t be ‘friending’ anyone on my personal account in the future, until I actually know them. Which is far more wise and far healthier personal boundaries.
I choose to reflect, learn and grow through every situation and every opportunity that arises for personal growth.