Expect the bullshit, but never accept it.

December 6, 2015 by Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I’ve learned along my unusual 44 years of life, there is a lot of BS. A lot of lies, manipulation and dishonesty in the world. And I am unable to ignore it, because I see the harm it causes to so many people. To society. To humanity.

Being raised with such disordered, unhealthy and abusive people, all through my childhood, I learned vigilance young. To survive.  And now being pretty discerning as a result, I see a lot. A lot that others miss, or intentionally choose not to see – to make life easier. Or simply don’t even realise, is occurring, or is unhealthy.

‘Focus on the positive’ is a coping strategy for some people in life, as it makes life easier. But in doing that, those being harmed are ignored. With that, the harm is minimized and invalidated. I cannot do that.

So, I cannot be a ‘focus only on the positive’ person. As I see this is not dealing with reality. And it’s cowardly. And selfish.

I choose to deal with all life has. The good, the bad and the ugly. Which takes courage, empathy, inner strength and commitment to honesty and truth.

The truth is….. life is good, bad and ugly. And I see all.

I don’t have that capacity to choose not to see the negative. I have too much discernment, combined with too much integrity. I see enabling unhealthy behaviours, is just as harmful.

Plus, I have a fair amount of psychology understanding, both book learned and life experience learned. So, I also know many of the reasons why I have been so confused by people, all my life. I now know about cognitive distortions, ego issues, personality disorder traits, and how easily humanity is fooled into believing many, many lies. How honesty, self insight, empathy, maturity and many other virtues, are not common.

I see, know and understand more than average, and I refuse to enable, condone or ignore it.

I see all the BS, and I do expect it. It would be lacking in any sense of realistic thought, knowledge and life learned understanding, to not expect it.

But, I refuse to accept it.

And because I refuse to accept it, I remain in a different mindset, to many.