Maturity, takes a path of self insight, personal growth and requires a real capacity for honesty. We cannot grow, or mature, until we are totally honest with ourselves.
I am blessed with a counsellor, who has stated my capacity for self honesty, is rare and a breath of fresh air. It made me realise, why I am different to many. Because self honesty and self insight, are not common.
It is simply my life and all I have experienced, the honesty I needed to survive all I have, that has created the person I am.
I spent a long time, searching for people who would fill the void where a loving, safe family, should have been. I don’t anymore. I realised no-one else can or should, fill that void.
No-one is responsible for my life, no-one can carry my burdens, no-one can make me happy. Only I can do this for myself. I take full responsibility for my own needs, life and journey. And this mature thinking, actually brings with it more freedom. Because relying on others, means you give control to others. That leads to all kinds of issues. I don’t give my power/responsibilities, away to others, anymore. Taking/keeping control of ourselves, is a path needed to be taken for growth and wisdom.
Always appreciative of responses from professionals, who work within the abuse/trauma field. Very appreciative of a kind response about this blog post, from a professional who specialises in bullying/abuse.
Angela’s website @ http://www.beyondthebullying.com/