Discussed this in counselling this week. I will often pick up on people who are engaging in duplicitous speech/actions and I will sense the motivation for it.
I choose to consider why this is occurring, how it affects me, the extent of any issues being caused by it, and what I need to do as a result.
I have standards people need to meet to be a part of my life, and ongoing dishonesty, is not something I choose to condone, ignore, accept or tolerate.
There are many ways to be dishonest and this is just one of many. And I can discern these behaviours, in a completely calm manner….. knowing this behaviour in others, is nothing to do with me.