I hope this post raises awareness of the unhealthy relationship that too often occurs between narcissists and people pleasers.
Being a former people pleaser myself, and having been raised by toxic people, I have been targeted by narcissistic types, all too often.
Now, I have stronger boundaries, do not ‘need’ people, do not tolerate ongoing toxic/disordered behaviours/people.
I have deep discernment into narcissistic people, their traits, their behaviours, their motivation. I learned this young and developed vigilance and discernment as a child. Which is now a skillset that I know and see is uncommon.
I was recently targeted by a female narcissist, and I did discern this quickly. I asked my therapist about this persons behaviours and discussed it at length. It was confirmed to me, I had indeed discerned and worked out this person was someone who would no doubt, meet all the criteria of narcissistic personality disorder. And I can see exactly why I was targeted. My empathy, my compassion – which they detect in future prey.
But, this situation, confirmed my capacity to discern people over time, and accurately. And calmly and without taking on any of the issues. I absolutely know, the issues are entirely about the disordered/toxic person.
Narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths and these types of toxic disordered personality types, do cause much harm, and all too often cause PTSD, Complex PTSD, anxiety, depression and this is why this issue, needs more awareness.