Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Scientific evidence – spanking/hitting children damages their development.


This article I read today, from the Facebook page of Bessel van der Kolk – a leading trauma expert, who is very educated and insightful, into child abuse, childhood trauma and the long term affects on the adult survivor, the child becomes.

As an anti-child abuse advocate, I promote the non use of hitting children, as it is known to cause long term mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression. And this continues to effect the child survivor, when they become an adult. It also damages the growing immature brain, which is not fully formed, until adulthood.

I also see clearly, people who choose to hit their children, lack empathy. Adults expect not to be hit, and if they are – it is deemed rightly to be assault, or domestic violence if cause by a family member. Hitting a child is NO different.

Children should be given the same respect and dignity, adults expect.

It is always interesting to me, as to the maturity of an adult, who believes they know more all the experts in child development, parenting, neuroscience and child psychology. I’m always amazed that people can believe they know better, and continue hitting their children. Continue reading

Be prepared for those who invalidate your healing & growth.

Following my last blog post, I received great responses, including from mental health professionals. That post being about my capacity to no longer take other people’s issues, personally.

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Mark is a mental health professional, who often shares my work

and responded positively.

I’ve worked really hard on this particular issue. Having being blamed and scapegoated in truly profoundly damaging ways, I used to always assume any issue, was my fault, and I let people walk all over me as result.

Now, I don’t. I recognise other people’s issues, are theirs. And I now have the capacity to not absorb, or internalise other people’s issues.

This shows great healing, growth and maturity, in this one area alone.

Sadly, the blog post was wrongly interpreted by one person, as being about detachment from society and people. And therefore deemed to be unrealistic. This issue itself, is not about me – the negativity and invalidation projected – is about that person and their incapacity to achieve what I now am able to. Continue reading