Following my last blog post, I received great responses, including from mental health professionals. That post being about my capacity to no longer take other people’s issues, personally.
Mark is a mental health professional, who often shares my work
and responded positively.
I’ve worked really hard on this particular issue. Having being blamed and scapegoated in truly profoundly damaging ways, I used to always assume any issue, was my fault, and I let people walk all over me as result.
Now, I don’t. I recognise other people’s issues, are theirs. And I now have the capacity to not absorb, or internalise other people’s issues.
This shows great healing, growth and maturity, in this one area alone.
Sadly, the blog post was wrongly interpreted by one person, as being about detachment from society and people. And therefore deemed to be unrealistic. This issue itself, is not about me – the negativity and invalidation projected – is about that person and their incapacity to achieve what I now am able to.
So, as with all issues other people wish to project – I will leave that issue completely with that person and hope that in time, with healing, growth and maturity – he too will be able to achieve this capacity to not internalise/absorb other people’s issues. Because it leads to a better quality of life.
I see this as a classic case of someone assuming that because they cannot achieve a certain maturity/skill, they choose to protect the ego, by invalidating and make it a negative. And I see that very clearly.
Discernment, self honesty and self insight, are not common in humanity. And it creates many issues and I that clearly too. And these are the main reasons, people do not grow, heal or mature.
But, I also know, this is not my responsibility to fix. Or absorb. Or internalise.