This article I read today, from the Facebook page of Bessel van der Kolk – a leading trauma expert, who is very educated and insightful, into child abuse, childhood trauma and the long term affects on the adult survivor, the child becomes.
As an anti-child abuse advocate, I promote the non use of hitting children, as it is known to cause long term mental health issues, such as anxiety and depression. And this continues to effect the child survivor, when they become an adult. It also damages the growing immature brain, which is not fully formed, until adulthood.
I also see clearly, people who choose to hit their children, lack empathy. Adults expect not to be hit, and if they are – it is deemed rightly to be assault, or domestic violence if cause by a family member. Hitting a child is NO different.
Children should be given the same respect and dignity, adults expect.
It is always interesting to me, as to the maturity of an adult, who believes they know more all the experts in child development, parenting, neuroscience and child psychology. I’m always amazed that people can believe they know better, and continue hitting their children.
Hitting children is abuse. And I won’t condone it due to the excuse of it being discipline. It isn’t discipline and if as adults we don’t condone being hit, then it is very hypocritical to then say it’s okay to hit children.
To me, it’s worse. Hitting a child, who is weaker, smaller, and defenceless, is worse, than hitting a grown adult, who can at least try to protect themselves.
And even more hypocritically, is telling a child not to hit, yet condoning hitting them.
People will rationalise and excuse their own poor choices and behaviours all the time. But, when it harms children, this is never okay and needs to stop.