Liars, who continually lie to avoid accountability, to be devious and manipulative, are being emotional abusers.
And I don’t mean the little white lies. I mean lying about the important things in life. To avoid being ‘caught out’. To manipulate people. To do things they should not be doing.
And worse, is when they then tell more lies, to cover the lies they already told. And if that fails – try to blame the person they are compulsively lying to, followed by the silent treatment.
It’s a pattern I have seen all too often. It’s deeply selfish and abusive to the person being lied to, if the person is a partner, or relative, or friend. And when there is no remorse, no conscience, no guilt, no shame, it’s even worse.
And compulsive, or pathological lying are never about…. love, respect, or dignity. Lying is the opposite. A complete lack of love, respect, dignity for the other person. It’s also very immature and quite pathetic. It’s a lack of courage. A lack of integrity. A lack of decency. And often a sign of a personality disorder.
Lying occurs in many ways. Including half truths, lying by omission, allowing people to believe something that is a lie.
I have a real aversion to liars. Every person of any importance in my life, has been a liar. So now, I find liars quite repulsive. And I won’t tolerate it anymore.
It is emotional abuse, and I am not going to minimize that, or invalidate the affect it has.
Being a compulsive liar, means their victim has no faith in the person, no assurance that the person has their back, and continually knows they are likely hearing lies. And can live with the ongoing anxiety about what the liar is doing.
Honesty most important needs within relationships. Compulsive or pathological liars, destroy relationships and then many will lie, about who caused the issues.
Compulsive or pathological liars, with no conscience, feel entitled to do whatever they want, and not care how much it hurts others. And they will never admit to anything, unless they have to, because they have been caught out. And even then, they will fight the truth being exposed fully, by all manner of other manipulation and abuse, like blaming, making excuses, getting angry etc.
I have no respect, no trust, no value, in liars. Compulsive or pathological lying, comes from someone morally bankrupt. This is also often shown in other ways too. And lying, is a choice.
A lack of conscience, is how they don’t feel bad about their lying.
Only a fool, believes a compulsive liar, about anything.
Only a fool, believes liars with no conscience, no remorse, no empathy, no guilt, no shame…. are willing to change. Their lack of conscience, means they do not feel any necessity, to change. At all. But, of course, they will tell you they intend changing…. and that is no doubt, just another lie.