Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Wow, my new ladies group, has 50 members & 23 on a waitlist!

I am amazed the ladies group I set up, has 50 members & 23 on a waitlist, within 24 hours of going live.

My subscription, is the cheapest, and has a maximum of 50 members at a time. So, there is a waitlist now of 23 pending requests. And no doubt, this will increase. In fact, since I screen dumped the stats below, another request to join, has added to the waitlist.

Feeling a little overwhelmed. But, I’ve set the first meet up and we’ll see how it goes 🙂

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So thankful to receive another award!

I am very blessed, to receive my 22nd blog award. I always hope my blog helps people, as I know how hard this journey is.

Thank you to Gentle Kindness (http://gentlementalannie.com/2016/01/24/awards/(, for nominating me ❤

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So very thankful to be nominated for an award! Thank you so very much ❤ ❤


I am catching up on awards today. Thank you goes out toSurviveNarc for nominating me for the One Lovely Blog Award. 

lovely blogThe rules are as follows:

  1. Thank the person that nominated you and provide a link to their blog.
  2. List the rules.
  3. Display the award on your post of the award.
  4. List seven facts about yourself.
  5. Nominate 15 bloggers for this award and comment on one of their posts to let them know you have nominated them.

My Nominees for this award are as follows..

Gemini’s Lament

Me MyMagnificentSelf

Healing from Complex Trauma and C-PTSD

My Child Within

I Didn’t Havemy Glasses On

VirgoBeauty’s Blog


Advocate for Mental Illness

Lost to the Dark

Orange Hobbit

Surviving Extreme Trauma

Am I the Only Loser Out There

Seven Facts About Myself 

  1. I sleep with stuffed animals on my bed. My favorite is a…

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Why I don’t encourage ‘everyone just be yourself’ thinking.

There are a lot of people pushing this attitude that we all just need to unapologetically be ourselves. And don’t change for anyone.

It is such bad advice. There are a lot of people who do indeed need to change and not be themselves. There are a lot of people who cause harm to others, and to feed them this BS that no-one needs to change, enables them to remain a toxic person, causing harm.

If people just stopped and thought about how abusive, toxic, selfish, manipulative, exploitative people hearing this message ‘don’t change, just be unapologetically you’. It’s not wise, is it?

These unwise and shallow attitudes people can have, are not helpful, at all. And they often come from people who know deep down they themselves need to change, but don’t want to. So in telling everyone else not to change, they give themselves permission, not to change and grow.

This often goes hand in hand with the ‘unconditional love’ attitude. Which again is very unwise, potentially dangerous and enables toxic people to continue being toxic.

It is far wiser, to know conditions are necessary. Like not tolerating abuse, harm, toxicity.

Without expectation of conditions, people don’t learn boundaries, or respect for others. They don’t know what is expected of them, to be decent people. And all too often unconditional love, is used for malicious reasons.

I think a better way would be to state ‘you can love someone unconditionally, but you cannot have unconditional behaviour and relationships’. Continue reading