Today, I wrote a comment about spanking (on an anti-spanking organisation page) – being a ‘complete lack of empathy and that adults expect not to be hit, but justify hitting their children and that abuse – which spanking is – is domestic violence’.
The reply back was ‘what a profound realization, that spanking is domestic violence’.
I don’t see this as profound. It’s common sense to me. I extend to my children the same interactions and dignity, I expect for myself. I don’t want to be hit, so I extend this same attitude/dignity/compassion, to my children.
But, in a world where many children are abused every day, in ways considered ‘normal parenting’ – like spanking, being called derogatory names, yelled at, belittled, shamed, punished in all manner of ways etc….. it would seem the way I view spanking, is considered profound. I know it is a deeper level of love, empathy, compassion, respect.
I am someone more concerned about the rights of innocent children, than worrying about whether I upset parents by calling what they do – abuse. Children don’t have a choice in the parents they get…….. so people need to be a voice for them. And the more voices that speak up for children, hopefully the more parents will listen and change.