When looking for a quote today, that would help explain why invalidation is so painful, I came across my own quote. I forgot I wrote this.
I wrote this quote a few years ago. Invalidation, has been in my life, since I can ever remember. My entire family of origin used invalidation, as psychological abuse tactic. During every period of abuse, over 44 years of my life, I have been subjected to invalidation.
Invalidation, can be minimizing, rejecting, mocking, judging, diminishing and/or denying a persons experience, emotions, thoughts and reality.
When it’s being invalidated by significant people in your life, it is so painful. And it causes me to withdraw and feel not only the pain of the person currently invalidating my reality, but also triggers all the pain of all the invalidating done throughout my life.
This is an article about invalidation and how it is emotional abuse. It explains many forms of invalidation abuse survivors are often subjected to.