Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Invalidation. Still hurts. Deeply.


When looking for a quote today, that would help explain why invalidation is so painful, I came across my own quote. I forgot I wrote this.

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I wrote this quote a few years ago. Invalidation, has been in my life, since I can ever remember. My entire family of origin used invalidation, as psychological abuse tactic. During every period of abuse, over 44 years of my life, I have been subjected to invalidation.

Invalidation, can be minimizing, rejecting, mocking, judging, diminishing and/or denying a persons experience, emotions, thoughts and reality.


When it’s being invalidated by significant people in your life, it is so painful. And it causes me to withdraw and feel not only the pain of the person currently invalidating my reality, but also triggers all the pain of all the invalidating done throughout my life.

This is an article about invalidation and how it is emotional abuse. It explains many forms of invalidation abuse survivors are often subjected to.




Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

5 thoughts on “Invalidation. Still hurts. Deeply.

  1. oh my !!!!! incredible article. thank you so much. you are saving my sanity. !!!!!! I have been invalidated all my life. Finally understand people to this to eliminate the guilt they are feeling !!!!!!!!

  2. have you considering becoming a therapist?

  3. I found this amazing blog while looking for pictures dealing with invalidation for a post that I’m putting up later this month. Thank you for writing this and writing about what you do. Invalidation is so, so hard, and unfortunately it’s something I’ve received from family members about really bad things in my life.
    Just, thank you so much. I hope you have a beautiful day sunshine, and take gentle care of yourself.

    • I am so glad if anything I write here helps you ❤

      I know all the pain and emotions I feel, other people feel. And whilst I don't wish that on anyone, I always hope others know they are not alone in their pain and emotions. Someone understands.

      I hope you have a beautiful day too & you have that gentle self care, we so need.

      Lilly ❤