Often complex trauma survivors, struggle with self compassion. Especially if the trauma was caused throughout childhood, by parents. I think childhood complex trauma survivors, often have an inner voice that says ‘if your own parents didn’t love you, then you must be unlovable and defective’.
And it takes a long time, for this message to change and a more healthy message, to develop.
To have self compassion, self care may seem really easy to most people. But, it can be a very hard journey, for those who never received love in childhood.
For me personally, self compassion, self care etc, are still hard to maintain and whenever life gets really hard and I become overwhelmed, they decline. And quickly. And then I will beat myself up for ‘failing’. Those harsh inner critic voices, that have plagued my life, are still there.
So, I’m trying to have self compassion and some self care. I’ve done some gardening today, and that has lifted my mood a little.
And anything positive, no matter how small, is a step in the right direction.