Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Anger is necessary, as part of healing & grieving.

I wrote a blog yesterday, about how I am not defined by all the abusers have done to me, I am defined by my courage to survive it all, to overcome it all and be a good person.

I struggle to allow myself anger. I suppress it. And I feel a lot of confusion and fear, when I feel anger. Yet, I know anger is a very needed, appropriate and normal emotion, after abuse and trauma. Especially the severity of trauma I have endured.

This came up in counselling last week, were I tried to explain I know I have anger within me. And I can’t cope with it, so I just suppress it.

This week in counselling, While explaining this processing I have been doing, I tentatively said, the success of this blog, my website and all the amazing feedback I get – is kind of a big middle finger, to all those who harmed me.

I said this tentatively, because I am conflicted as to whether giving all the abusers the middle finger, is appropriate and okay. I realise I was apprehensive, as to whether my counsellor would feel this was wrong. Whether this would make me a ‘bad’ person.

Her response, was very encouraging of me writing about this anger I feel and indeed, putting a pic of a middle finger, to all those who harmed me, mistreated me, abused me and treated me as a worthless person. And how this is okay to do on my blog. Continue reading


It is confirmed, the article requested by a best selling author, will be in her new book!

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Yay!!! I am so excited. Shahida Arabi – Best Selling Author of ‘The Smart Girl’s Guide To Self Care’…. invited me to supply an article to go in her new book (above)…. and the article will be in it!

The new book ‘Becoming the Narcissist’s Nightmare: How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself’ is available in April this year.

I am so honoured to have an article of mine, included in Shahida’s new book!

Shahida’s first book is amazing and very helpful for survivors of abusive and toxic relationships, and this new book will be just as helpful, to all who have been exposed to highly abusive, toxic people.

I am so deeply thankful to Shahida for inviting me to write an article for her book, and honoured she considers my work valuable to include in it.

a-smileLinks to Shahida’s books are..

http://www.amazon.com/The-Smart-Girls-Guide-Self-Care-ebook/dp/B00JK86OAI/ref=pd_sim_351_1?ie=UTF8&dpID=51y9fp0H2VL&dpSrc=sims&preST=_UX300_PJku-sticker-v3%2CTopRight%2C0%2C-44_AC_UL160_SR100%2C160_&refRID=0G4F6KAZ6GXXNGNJH02N Continue reading