I learned discernment young. I needed to – to survive so much ongoing daily abuse, from highly abusive people, who were all around me.
Hypervigilance, can be very accurate discernment.
It’s interesting how many people failed to work out a sociopath, who has now been proven to have been faking PTSD, terminal cancer, eating disorders, being in combat, being in the SAS…. and who is a highly abusive man.
I worked him out fast. Yet 1000’s of people didn’t. Even his own admins, after I told them, didn’t see it, until he started abusing them. They ignored my warning and joined in with his cyber abuse. His own NFP PTSD org workers, didn’t see it. His own partners didn’t see it, until the relationship ended.
Yet, I picked up on it very quickly. Within weeks of seeing his PTSD Facebook page, I knew he was a fraud.
It’s this way with other people too. I detect narcissists, sociopaths etc, quickly. Because I grew up with them. I know their traits and how to be vigilant about the red flags.
I also hate seeing people conned and lied to by them. My conscience does not let me just ignore the abuse others are and will be enduring. I am aware people ignored the abuse I have endured, and failed to help me. I have always vowed never to be like them. But, instead be a person of compassion, have empathy for current and future victims. Speak up with courage and help people. Not ignore them. Like I was ignored by all the people who failed me.
So, I speak up. As I have done for over 2 years with he PTSD/cancer etc fraud.
As I did with the narcissist pastor and wife.
I feel guilty if I don’t warn people. I worry about the lies and fraud they are being subjected to. It plays on my mind.
Recently, coming to detect 2 narcissists, I have not spoken up to all those being affected. Because I know it will be ignored. I don’t know the people well enough to speak up. But, I still worry in the back on mind, about the lies people are swallowing. How they are being used for the narcissists own needs.
But, I do realise not every situation where a narcissist, is manipulating people and lying to them, is my responsibility to deal with. Some people have to figure it out by themselves. Sadly.
I just hope they don’t get hurt.
So, it does feel like a curse sometimes, to have a deep conscience, a need to protect people, integrity and a deeper than average discernment capacity.
It isn’t fun, it always leads to some level of being treated badly, for speaking up. And to be rejected for speaking the truth about what others cannot see. I just hope the truth comes out in the end, as it has with the sociopath fraud.
It’s also not fun, to know and see how many of these narcissists and sociopaths are around. And they are in far greater numbers, than is generally realised.