This is something I have learned the hard way.
People’s ‘opinions’ and ‘advice’ are often wrong, harmful and shame complex trauma survivors.
I learned to have better emotional boundaries, as a result of being re-traumatised, shamed and hurt, by people who know little about trauma, yet consider themselves to have a valid opinion.
I’ve learned most people in fact, have little insight into complex trauma and little empathy.
Self care, self compassion and boundaries, are vital to healing and general wellbeing.