Wise words by Jeff Brown
“There is a meaningful difference between a nervous breakthrough and a nervous breakdown. A breakdown stops partway- the emotional material emerges, but it gets capped before it can see its way through to release and resolution. A nervous breakthrough goes all the way through the transformation tunnel. It is a profound emotional cleansing, a collapse of the false structures that have ruled our lives, a breaking through to a more genuine state of consciousness. Although a deep surrender to our emotional processes is shunned by society at large, it is actually a sign of great courage. What seems like weakness to a survivalist is actually a sign of strength to a spiritual warrior who longs to be authentic at all costs…”
I understand this fully. This emotional process, is shunned by society, who generally view emotions that are not considered ‘positive’, to be weak.
I did the whole ‘positive thinking, move on, don’t think about the past’ attitude throughout my 20’s and 30’s.
Then the inevitable ‘breakdown’ occurred. I thought it was the end of my life. But, despite how hard it is, despite how painful it is, I do know this breakdown, was in fact, a breakthrough. And I have learned more, grown more, developed far more wisdom maturity and insight on this breakthrough journey, than I ever would have, if I had not ‘fallen apart’ and then continued down the… trauma processing, grieving path. Which is needed, for healing.
And because society does not value this process. it sets me apart from many in society. It makes me different. Which is something I have learned to accept.
When I see people who I know are not dealing with their trauma/history/childhood issues…. and I see them constantly talking about ‘positivity’ – I realise they are where I was, prior to my break through. And I see they are suppressing, avoiding, repressing, minimizing their own issues, rather than deal with them.
People often place a ‘positivity’ attitude, and cling onto that and continually fight to maintain it …….. rather than deal with issues. And tell everyone else that is the attitude they need to adopt, with the inference that others are weak, if they don’t.
It’s sad to see, as it simply avoids all healing, all growth, all insight and all maturity an wisdom from developing.