Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

“Nothing has made so much sense than this.”

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“Nothing has made so much sense than this.”

This is the type of feedback from other complex trauma survivors, that helps me realise, how meaningful my work is. Feedback that shows someone has gained something significant to them, to help their healing… is what I hope to achieve.

The feedback was in response to this blog


I know how complex – complex trauma is. I’m still figuring it out. I’m not an expert, as some tell me I am. But, I do have the capacity to work things out, with self insight.

This feedback came today, from a survivor who read my blog about emotional flashbacks. These types of flashbacks are really challenging to understand and figure out. Let alone manage.

I’ve also has this feedback…

“This is my life. I can understand every single issue

I deal with every day now.

Finally something makes sense. This makes me cry.

For the sadness and pain I consistently endure.

Thank you.”

And I owe this validation about Emotional Flashbacks – to Pete Walker.

Because it was his work, that made me have that light bulb moment of realisation, as to why these occur. This has enabled me to explain how I understand these and how to manage them better. This has helped me to spread this education/validation, to many others.

As per this info http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/#!responding-to-emotional-flashbacks/c10x8

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on ““Nothing has made so much sense than this.”

  1. Emotional flashbacks are terrible but, when I find myself triggered etc…I feel at first shocked with the realisation that the trigger moment/event has occurred & because, I am now aware of what this is, truly is, I don’t fight it by numbing/sweats/dissociation/flight or flee etc….I sink myself into it, sit with it & the examine the feelings & question the fear by facing it head on. Phew that is bloody hard but, if I recognise it for what it is & confront it no matter how uncomfortable or upsetting it is, my flashback’s shrink down to manageable fear. Then, I write or do something that grounds the flashback/trigger & I release it as a questioning being. I know this sounds silly or not possible but, it works for me. I try to call the fear out to show itself & then, I realise it’s my mind & that I am behind the mind as, someone else. It’s the ego, that undermines me so, I work hard to go beyond the thought & bring myself back into me where I am safe & aware & I breathe deeply & remind myself how far I have come. We cannot change the past but, we can decide just how much more we intent it let it hold us back from ourselves. We did nothing wrong & we are just souls inhabiting bodies & it is the body that exists in this realm that we fight to protect but, the soul is still pure & learning & growing & seeking & it goes on, long after the abuse ends. We go on & we are not the events, we are light & love. Sounds twee but, it’s the feelings that we leave behind in others & we are not our abusers & we are not to blame & mostly, we are just carrying this burden that we must try to learn to put down finally & liberate ourselves from our abusers. Love & light to you. xoxo

    P.S. Sometimes we need gentle help sitting with the feelings invoked by the trigger & a good therapist helps a lot. Finally, you become your own therapist & learn to self heal because, no one knows you or your journey more than you. You are worthy & always have been, of accepting yourself for the wonderful being you have always been. 🙂