Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


I would rather be a moon.


It’s easy to be the sun, all happy and chirpy and light up people’s lives.

It’s easy to tell everyone they should be all sparkly and happy and shiny and positive.

It’s easy to ignore anything bad or yucky, and focus only on the happy things in life.

It’s easy to focus only on the nice things, the positive things.

It’s easy to be a sun.

I know, I’ve been there.

But, it’s not so easy to choose to be there for people in their dark times.

To have empathy to feel what someone is enduring, when they are in so much pain.

That takes far more effort, far more willingness, to go to those dark places, to see people’s pain, to see suffering.

I praise God for all those who are willing to be the moon, to give a little light, in someone’s dark times. Continue reading

Tears for the Morcombe family.


Daniel’s killer has been refused the application to appeal against his murder conviction. This piece of scum has no remorse, no conscience, no guilt, no shame. That’s how he still trying to get out of prison. He really believes he has the right to freedom. The right to do as he wants and no doubt harm more children, kill more children.

I am so glad they have dismissed his application to appeal.

I only wish they had kept him in prison, prior to him killing  Daniel. They knew he was not rehabilitated and could not be. Despite all the sex offender rehab’s he went through. His own psychiatrist knew he would harm another child. But, they let him out anyway and Daniel and his family were forever devastated by this decision.

I saw Denise on the news, and I could see and feel the pain in her eyes, her voice, her face. She talked about the relief she had now, but I could still feel the pain she was in. I cried. No mother or family, should ever have to endure any of this. No child should ever have to endure what Daniel endured.

The legal system is pathetic with regard to sex offenders, paedophiles and the like. They have more rights than victims and far too much leniency shown them. Continue reading

Even the Bible speaks of people failing child abuse survivors.

I just read this, on Unfundamentalist Parenting.

Tearing the Robe Twice: Christian Parenting and the Rape of Tamar

Tamar was wearing a long robe with many colors. The king’s virgin daughters wore robes like this. Tamar tore her robe of many colors and put ashes on her head. Then she put her hand on her head and began crying. Then Tamar’s brother Absalom said to her, “Have you been with your brother Amnon? Did he hurt you? Now, calm down sister. Amnon is your brother, so we will take care of this. Don’t let it upset you too much.” So Tamar did not say anything. She quietly went to live at Absalom’s house. King David heard the news and became very angry, but he did not want to say anything to upset Amnon, because he loved him since he was his firstborn son. Absalom began to hate Amnon. Absalom did not say one word, good or bad, to Amnon, but he hated him because Amnon had raped his sister Tamar.

~ 2 Samuel 13:18

As a child and survivor advocate, I find Tamar’s story to be one of the most haunting in the Bible. Along with the murder of Abel and the rape of Dinah, Tamar’s abuse shows how parents and leaders have failed to properly understand and respond to child abuse since the beginning of time.

Their actions have amplified the damage instead of fostered healing. It was Amnon who first caused Tamar to tear her robe in grief. Yet her father David and her brother Absalom cause a second tearing of the robe, by forcing Tamar into further silence and shame. Absalom later goes on a murderous rampage against Amnon, but Tamar — her story, her injustice, even her very existence — vanish from the text, as absent from future biblical narratives as they are from most sermons and pulpits today.

It shows how people have been failing child abuse survivors, forever. And it still goes on. Particularly with church people. Continue reading

If we are willing to learn -experience is always the best teacher.


I am aware of my vast experiences of surviving very toxic, disordered, abusive people. And I always try to learn. About people. About myself. And I try to put that to good use, in sharing it with others, who relate.

We have to be willing to learn, to gain wisdom and knowledge, from the life experiences we have. It takes great courage and the capacity for honesty.

My life, will always be an ongoing learning process. Because, I know we are never done with needing to learn. Continue reading


Honoured – invited to be a resident blogger & a resource.

A PTSD website, that facilitate online chat and a forum, have invited me to be a resident blogger and share my Website/Blog, as a resource. They have also suggested creating a new category, for Complex Trauma/ComplexPTSD.

I am honoured to be invited and very thankful.

The more we share our collective knowledge and empathy, for others, the better.

And I am passionate about educating about complex trauma, and how this is Continue reading