I was so thankful, to see NAMI retweet this post and my comment I added to it.
I see a lot of ‘shaming’, about being both an abuse survivor and having mental illness. And a lot of stigma about both.
The term ‘recovery’ (much used within the mental health industry) – implies there is an end goal, of being completely recovered. That is not the reality for many people. Some people can recover in full from PTSD, many will not. So this view, that we ‘should’ all recover in full………. is very unhelpful and shames those who do not.
Shaming people, occurs with the mental health industry. Professionals, clinicians etc…. can give this attitude that everyone can recover in full. Which is worrying to me, because it is not true. It shows a lack of insight to me, that is not okay.
Just because some people do recover in full, does not mean everyone can. And there should be NO shame in that. I do not agree with comparing journeys. I do not agree with being held up to comparison with the poster children of recovery. It shames people. This does NOT help people.
What I do encourage, is people seek finding help to learn to manage symptoms better, and heal as much as they can. And I don’t imply a timespan for this either. For some people, this is a lifelong journey, and that IS okay. No shame needed.
I live in reality and have empathy. I can see where shaming occurs and I am a voice about this. I see the pain it causes people. Assuming we should all recover in full, can become such a painful attitude for those who cannot recover in full, that they lose all hope. Some end their lives over this.
So, I advocate for empathy, not putting heavy burdens on people, not assuming a timespan for healing. And just having compassion. Not expectations.
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