Complex trauma, which is ongoing severe abuse, within a captivity situation, is one of the biggest life stressors, anyone can endure.
Yet, society demands that abuse and child abuse survivors, just ‘get over it’ and deem them to be weak, if they are not being ‘strong warrior survivors’. And throw out shaming statements like ‘don’t be a victim’. All shaming attitudes.
It has never made sense to me, that anyone who has endured some of the worst life experiences, are supposed to be ‘stronger’ than people who have not endured such impacting suffering.
It’s just another way to shame abuse survivors. And that is really wrong.
I am glad to see research that shows that natural resilience to major trauma, is not common. It takes pressure off survivors of severe abuse and complex trauma, to live up to society’s inappropriate demands.
Compassion and empathy, are vital when considering how complex trauma survivors are coping.
Please don’t shame survivors, who are not coping in a way deemed to be ‘strong’. It is cruel, harmful and can lead to suicide.
And if you are someone, who feels they are not coping well……… please know I will not shame you for this. I know you have already endured so much and how you are managing, is okay by me.
If you are struggling to get through the day, feeling suicidal, feeling like no-one cares and no-one understands……. please know I do understand, I do have empathy and I am not going to put cruel and inappropriate demands on you. Continue reading