We discussed this in counselling today. All part of my ‘what I am/what I am not’ processing.
People have labels for those who don’t fit the ‘norm’. Who aren’t ‘average’. I’m not the norm and I’m not average. I haven’t had an average life. I don’t have an average personality. I don’t have average intelligence. I don’t have average thinking capacity. I don’t have an average conscience. I don’t have average capacity for empathy, self honesty, insight. I know these are strengths and they are nothing to feel negative about. No matter what other choose to think.
None of my strengths make me better than anyone, but I am someone many people don’t understand. Often people have a tendency to reject what they don’t understand. So, I get labelled in many ways – good and bad, meaning I am different. Which I am. And I am absolutely okay with that.
I not only accept my ‘quirkiness’ – but now I embrace it. I like my quirkiness. I am okay with being different. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses. I have self insight.
Those who are okay with my quirkiness, that great. Those who don’t, that’s okay too.
I have no motivation, need or desire, to ‘fit in’, or be validated by anyone. I have no need to try and be ‘normal’ or ‘average’- just to be accepted by anyone.
I am confident in my quirkiness, my strengths.
My growing self esteem, is proof of all the hard inner work I have committed to, over the last few years.
My list of ‘what I am, what I am not’…… is growing 🙂
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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April 6, 2016 at 7:48 pm
I needed a reminder today to STAY QUIRKY!Thanks:0)
April 6, 2016 at 7:49 pm
So glad this helped you!
YES! Stay quirky…. quirky is good! 😀
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April 9, 2016 at 11:28 am
Those what I am, what I’m not lists are interesting to see them change over time. My therapist had me do one and I’ve been keeping it up to date.
April 9, 2016 at 2:25 pm
Yes, I think as we grow, mature and heal… the lists change. It’s good to see that happening 🙂
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