Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

I am ‘quirky’. And absolutely okay with that label.


We discussed this in counselling today. All part of my ‘what I am/what I am not’ processing.

People have labels for those who don’t fit the ‘norm’. Who aren’t ‘average’. I’m not the norm and I’m not average. I haven’t had an average life. I don’t have an average personality. I don’t have average intelligence. I don’t have average thinking capacity. I don’t have an average conscience. I don’t have average capacity for empathy, self honesty, insight. I know these are strengths and they are nothing to feel negative about. No matter what other choose to think.

None of my strengths make me better than anyone, but I am someone many people don’t understand. Often people have a tendency to reject what they don’t understand. So, I get labelled in many ways – good and bad, meaning I am different. Which I am. And I am absolutely okay with that.

I not only accept my ‘quirkiness’ – but now I embrace it. I like my quirkiness. I am okay with being different. I know my strengths and I know my weaknesses. I have self insight.


Those who are okay with my quirkiness, that great. Those who don’t, that’s okay too.

I have no motivation, need or desire, to ‘fit in’, or be validated by anyone. I have no need to try and be ‘normal’ or ‘average’- just to be accepted by anyone.

I am confident in my quirkiness, my strengths.

My growing self esteem, is proof of all the hard inner work I have committed to, over the last few years.

My list of ‘what I am, what I am not’…… is growing 🙂

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

4 thoughts on “I am ‘quirky’. And absolutely okay with that label.

  1. I needed a reminder today to STAY QUIRKY!Thanks:0)

  2. Those what I am, what I’m not lists are interesting to see them change over time. My therapist had me do one and I’ve been keeping it up to date.