Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.


This is how psychopaths, even dupe mental health professionals.

Psychopaths, can be very intelligent. The intelligent ones, can fake empathy, fake emotions, fake emotional reactions. But, actually they have no capacity for empathy. Neuroscience shows the lack of empathy capacity, via brain imaging scans.

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It can be very difficult even for mental health professionals, to discern an intelligent psychopath. And many are duped by them. Even one of the world’s leading psychopaths experts – Dr. Robert Hare – admits he has been duped by them. Any mental health professional, who believes they will not be duped by them, are very naïve and clearly lack knowledge about psychopaths.

So, if experts, mental health professionals, can be duped and manipulated by psychopaths, please know the victims are easily duped too.

There are many psychopaths amongst us. Some experts estimate 1 in 25 people, is a fully fledged psychopath.

Most are not serial killers, or serial rapists. As is often wrongly assumed. Most are living amongst us all, totally undetected. They love careers like politics, business CEO’s, lawyers, church ministers, police officers, journalists. They see people as objects to be used and abused and are often attracted to careers where their traits can be exposed, and are acceptable. They love power and control.

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“I’m a sad girl, I’m a bad girl” – Lana Del Rey

So much of Lana’s music resonates with me, to my teenage years.

I’ve spent my whole life, believing deep down, I am a bad girl.

That’s those voices from the past, those deep wounds that cause so much harm.

When you are told something enough, when you are treated badly, so often….. you believe it.



Music, can cause flashbacks.

I was just listening to Clair de Lune by Claude Debussy, on YouTube. I love classical music.

As this ended, the next one which I wasn’t aware would start playing is this. I listened to classical music as a teenager. And this transported me back to my teenage years of suffering, hopelessness, despair and suicidal needs.

Flashbacks, are a bitch.


I am glad I can discern flashbacks occurring now, and manage them better.

Info on managing them @ http://www.healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.com/#!flashbacks/cx5h



Some blog posts I share on Twitter, Some I don’t.

I think it’s helpful for anyone following my blog, to know some of my blog posts are advice that may help others.

Some are purely for myself, which may not be something others need, or feel they resonate with.

I don’t share every blog post on Twitter.

I only share the ones I feel may resonate or be helpful.

Some blog posts, are venting, getting my anger, or upset out. Some are when I need to challenge myself and my thinking, behaviours, actions. But, are not intended to be advice for others.

I also don’t believe my blog, my journey and my healing, are what everyone experiences, or needs.

We are all different and we all have different journeys and needs. And I am very aware of that. I have empathy and insight outside of my own journey.

This may be helpful for people to know.

Lilly ❤


It was 44 years, before I learned this.

This is truly necessary advice, for those who have been abused. In fact, it is good advice for anyone.

do yourself a favour

Often those who have been abused, feel it necessary to keep updated about their abusers. It’s a vigilance and fear issue. Understandably so.

There is a quote “keep your friends close and your enemies closer”. I used to believe there was wisdom in this. And I’m sure there is in some circumstances, but not in mine.

Now, I realise I do not need these people in my mind, my head, my thoughts anymore than is absolutely necessary. Continue reading