A few months ago, I set up a ladies group, for ‘mature thinking’ ladies. We meet up for coffee and interesting chat.
It’s going so well. Such a diverse and interesting group of ladies.
The ladies give such great feedback and it is lovely to see friendships forming and conversations where people feel confident and safe to share some of their more personal details. And I make sure the reactions and responses, are appropriate. Whilst being tolerant of differences in opinions, which don’t create any harm.
Of the core group of ladies, which is about 12 of us, only one is an issue. I handle her by keeping vigilant and I can already tell, a few of the other ladies have cottoned on to her issues. So that’s been interesting to watch. I offer more appropriate responses, when I hear her unhealthy ego, being flexed. She makes every conversation about herself, so I always direct the conversation back to others.
Some new ladies came today, and I ensured they felt welcomed. They both wrote lovely responses, about how welcomed they felt and left great comments about how the group is hosted. One of the new ladies, has already confirmed she is coming to the next two group chats.
I feel a little more able to show my funny/kooky side and I like to create some giggles. I told them about getting my puppy next week, and how excited I am.
I’m still not offering much in the way of personal details – other than about my children, my hobbies, my puppy.
I can really see how my discernment, empathy, sensitivity to the needs of others, and capacity to respond appropriately to issues, is really a gift for managing this group. And the proof of that, is how the group is increasing in positive ways and the lovely feedback, always expressed.
I really enjoy this group and I see they really enjoy it too. Very thankful of this group of ladies. So glad I decided to go ahead with it.
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