Religious people, can be very tunnel visioned, very black and white and very lacking in empathy, or understanding about trauma. They also often feel very compelled and entitled, to shame you, for not being a ‘good enough Christian’…. by shaming you about forgiveness, grace etc.
I have come to realise, if the first interaction on social media with a religious person, is about forgiveness, I know I am dealing with someone unhealthy.
So, I utilise the block facility on Twitter. I don’t entertain unhealthy, dysfunctional religious people anymore.
You cannot reason, with people who choose not to have rational, empathic or reasonable thinking.
If shaming people about forgiveness, is your thing….. you are not welcome in my life, in any way. You are not going to make my followers feel shamed, by toxic religious and spiritual abuse.
Interestingly, my own Christian counsellor, hasn’t mentioned forgiveness, unless I raise the topic. She also agreed, I don’t ‘have’ to forgive any of my abusers. And if I do, or don’t……. that is my decision, and the only one I answer to – is Jesus.
Adding to this…. I didn’t mean for this to be posted to Twitter, but it did, and many have re-posted it and it has opened up a good debate for understanding the spiritual abuse that is inflicted on abuse survivors……… Which hinders their healing, hinders their faith, hinders their relationships with God.
I am not okay and I wont tiptoe on egg shells around church people. Not when people who have already suffered too much…. and getting further harmed.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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