Being patronised, or having my intelligence insulted….. is something I am very used to. It’s been happening, since I was a child.
Since developing far healthier self esteem over the last few years, I have realised, my intelligence & my empathy capacity, were the very strengths I have – that abusive, toxic or unhealthy people needed to attack the most…. So I wouldn’t expose what they are. My intelligence, is/was something they feared.
Over the last few years, having my intelligence insulted, has really irritated me. It’s been wrong for the person doing it at the time, and a trigger to past abuse.
But, having had this happen again today….. and reacting calmly – whilst politely asking the person not to patronise me….. shows my capacity to control my emotions, far better than a few years back.
I always use shitty life experiences, to gauge where I am at.
I now have the self esteem, to not be patronised and the capacity for self control, to not react back, with an equally shitty response. Continue reading