A lot of people ask me how to cope with a narcissist, because many do not have the option to go no contact. For those who have to remain in some form of relationship, finding skills to cope and manage, are vital.
This is a list I found, that has excellent tips on coping with a narcissistic person.
Note, this would also apply to any toxic, abusive person, including sociopaths, psychopaths and those who have many of these traits, but are not diagnosed. Most personality disordered people, are not diagnosed, because few of them seek professional help and those that do, often manipulate professionals, to believe they are victims, rather than perpetrators of abuse.
This is from the link @ http://www.changemyrelationship.com/christian-relationship-help-boundaries-with-a-narcissist/
Coping Skills for Dealing with a Narcissist
You cannot make narcissists change. Personality disorders are the most difficult psychological problems to treat because the person lacks insight into who they are and has no awareness of the need to change. Your efforts to force change will most likely cause more backlash toward you.
You need to focus your efforts on changing yourself. Face the truth about who they are, adjust your expectations, refocus your efforts, and learn to take care of yourself. Here are some of the things you can do:
- Work on developing a strong sense of “self.”
- Learn to validate your “self.”
- Give up trying to make the narcissist validate your feelings, thoughts and needs.
- Attend to your own needs.
- Identify the things in you that make you vulnerable to the narcissist’s behaviors.
- Identify the narcissistic behaviors so you can defend yourself against them and not be surprised when they happen.
- Stop trying to explain yourself and instead make short statements about what you will and won’t do.
- Set clear boundaries and refuse to back down.
- Develop assertiveness skills.
- Sever the relationship if necessary or limit interactions if it is too toxic.
If the narcissist refuses to respect your boundaries or becomes abusive when you begin to take care of yourself, you may need to put some distance between you.
Please note, whilst this link is to a Christian website, this is not only for Christians. This info is insightful and is for anyone dealing with an abusive person.
~ Lilly HopLucario ❤