I see people have all sorts of attitudes about abuse and often they are seeking to make the abuse somehow a ‘gift’.
Abuse is never a gift. Abuse is wrong, undeserved, and never excusable and should not be rationalised.
To suggest it is a gift – is to congratulate the abuser.
It is to suggest the victim, needed the abuse.
It suggests the survivor had to be abused to ‘learn lessons’.
It really irritates me, when I see therapists, telling people that abuse was a gift. Rationalising it with BS like ‘your abusive mother showed you who not to be’.
Absolute rubbish and very unhealthy thinking.
Rationalising abuse is very distorted thinking and any therapists suggesting this is how abuse survivors should think, should not be therapists.
I deal with truth and I know I could have been a good parent without having been abused as a child.
I realise people believe this kind of distorted thinking, because it ‘feels better’.
But, it is not the truth.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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