I just read a horrific story, of a woman who pimped out her mentally disabled daughters to be sexually abused, for money to buy drugs and feed her drug habit.
I don’t care what the reason, any mother who allows her children to be sexually abused, is sick and a monster. And they deserve to be locked up and never let out.
There are woman, who choose to want their children sexually abused, for no other reason, than they want them abused. I know this, because I am one of them.
I think if my mother had a drug habit, I could understand a little more. Although this is still never an excuse.
But, when there is no known reason, other than a choice and desire to want and know their daughter is being abused …..in this most abhorrent way ….. it hurts. Really hurts.
These women who allow their children to be sexually abused…….. are child sex offenders themselves.
They are as guilty, as the men who are allowed to sexually abuse the child.
I know this is a part of my trauma history, I will never recover from.
I don’t even talk about how this makes me feel in counselling. Because I know I am expected to have some level of compassion for my mother. I’m expected to rationalise why she did it. Pretend she was possibly abused herself. Find some reason why she did it, to make me feel better. And then make my counsellor feel better.
There are no reasons, that make me feel better.
There are no excuses.
And I’m not going to make them up, just to appease others, who wish to make excuses, so they don’t have to deal with the harsh reality, that some mothers actually want and enjoy, this happening to their children. Just in the same way, paedophiles and child sex offenders, get off on sexually abusing children. They enjoy it.
I realise people make excuses, so this sick reality is minimized and made to feel a little better, a little easier.
I have too much integrity to honesty and truth, to make excuses, that somehow dilute these sick and abhorrent minds and black souls.
I accept that unless someone has actually endured this, they have no idea how it feels and therefore, have no opinion, on how the victim should feel, or think about it.
So I deal with this alone.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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