Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

Your abuser’s trauma does not justify them abusing you


abusers trauma does not justify

Many people make excuses for abusers, by claiming they too were abused.

People will say “they were (possibly) abused themselves”.

My answer to that is “so”.

A person being abused – does not in any way make it justifiable for them to abuse someone else.

It may feel easier to think they couldn’t help it, because they were abused themselves….. but that is not the truth.

Many people who have been abused, don’t abuse others.

Abusing someone, is a choice.

And there are no excuses.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle.

3 thoughts on “Your abuser’s trauma does not justify them abusing you

  1. I hear this too often , abusers are exactly who they are ! We have choices in life regaurdless of our back ground,upbringing ,or even if it is abuser who was abused there is not a soul in the world excused for stealing a childs innocense from them,not able to be ever the same. Child Again i agree 100%

  2. Thank you for the courage to speak out. I am a child of abuse and an innocent abuser. I am 69 and still struggling with the pain of recognizing how I was unloved and how my failure to love properly and completely has effected my children.

  3. I still struggle with this.

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