Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

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Really Sick Of Hearing The ‘There Are No Victims/Villains’ Rhetoric ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle.

2 thoughts on “Really Sick Of Hearing The ‘There Are No Victims/Villains’ Rhetoric ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Saying “there are no victims/villains” is a form of victim blaming. It’s an attempt to be neutral, but there is no neutrality. Silence only helps the oppressor. While there may be complex reasons for someone victimizing someone else, that doesn’t give them a pass on it or the right to abuse; a reason is not a right. While someone might not intend to hurt someone else (and I say this not to diminish any harm that was done to you if it was intentional, because very often it is and if that’s your story/experience, let no one tell you otherwise), it is the impact not the intention that’s important. Saying “no victim/no villains” gives the abuser a pass and leaves the survivor with no one to blame in the sayer’s eyes, and that’s unfair. It removes a huge chunk of agency from the survivor and is akin to “You need to forgive.” No, you don’t. This is something I struggle with as well. I’m also becoming very discouraged from looking for professional help the more I hear about how it can manifest :\

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