Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

It takes far more courage, to not ‘do’ cheap grace ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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I realise the reason most people like ‘cheap grace’, is because they themselves, don’t need to be honest, don’t need to repent, don’t need to do anything.

Christians who just demand cheap grace, are weak and self serving. Yet they will delude themselves, cheap grace, is about compassion, about mercy, about love.

I cannot lie and delude myself in this way.

But, I also don’t want…… retribution, payback, ‘karma’, retaliation, anyone to burn in hell., be abused in prison, the death penalty…. or whatever else people like to imagine will happen to abusers.  My conscience and sense of right and wrong, is too developed. I don’t have the mentality of anyone who thinks abuse is ever okay.

So, I just leave them to God. He can deal with them. It’s not my job.

I’m controversial, because I don’t buy into most people’s beliefs.

I walk a path, that requires insight, honesty, integrity and not swallowing self serving lies.

It’s a lonely path. I’m not ‘popular’ as a result. My integrity to honesty, doesn’t lower, to be more popular.

And who’s my greatest role model and doing what’s right, regardless of what anyone is doing, being pretty unpopular as a result and being rejected for speaking truth and not being a people pleaser…….


~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

One thought on “It takes far more courage, to not ‘do’ cheap grace ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. I want to say thank you for your tender, kind words. I have been having a terrible time for years with complex PTSD. Abuse so common in my life from so many people…doctors, cab drivers, so-called best friends, male friends and family members. I don’t know which was worst. I tend to navigate toward my father ( minister ) and his friends ( elders and deacons ) . I ended up pregnant and not sure who the father was 2 times. Never had a real relationship. I am still in contact with my parents. I live less than 5 minutes away. I use to present videos that I made concerning my sexual abuse. Lately I have not done much. I am very much stuck. I have wanted to so much more…but the fear of what would happen if I continue to speak out. People have great difficulty with my truth they say because I am around my abusers so much. Where else would I be? Abused by relatives from 3 to my 20s. I had no place to go. Still don’t. I’ve stop dreaming. Thank you for all of your concerns and sharing with people like me.