Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

No, you don’t have to be ‘so strong’ all the time ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


A post to my Facebook page about the judgmental attitude and shaming attitude, of severe trauma survivors having to be ‘so strong’ all the time.

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This judgment and shaming, can come from family, friends, church people, therapists, and even other survivors.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle.

2 thoughts on “No, you don’t have to be ‘so strong’ all the time ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Thanks for the post, really needed to read something like that tonight. Been having a hard time lately and all I hear, “you have to be strong ” but maybe I can’t be strong all the time. Maybe I need to feel weak and sad, and let me deal with things my own pace. So thank you for those kind words🙂

    • I’m so glad this post has helped many around social media and now here too.

      I am so aware of the need for empathy, patience, non judgment and compassion.

      It is quite bizarre really, that people want to assume, that severe abuse/trauma survivors ‘should’ be ‘so strong’ all the time.

      It’s like we are expected to be stronger than those who have not endured life impacting trauma.

      Such an inappropriate attitude and shames many, who cannot and do not need to meet this ‘so strong’ belief, all the time.


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