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Proof of the ‘there are no angels and no demons’ attitude, being bullshit.

**Trigger warning.


I recently started to read a book recommended to me, by my counsellor, based on some bullshit theory, which I know is a pack of lies.

The theory was thought up by a psychiatrist Murray Bowen. His own words ‘ there are no angels, there are no demons’ and ‘everyone is just acting predictably from their life experiences’. And the book, was written by some bullshit ‘social worker’ who also stated ‘there are no victims, there are no villains’.

Today, when I turned my computer on , the first two news stories I read were about.. 1) Two men aged in their 50’s raping a 10 month old baby and then sharing photos of this abuse with their friends, & 2) A man caught on the ‘dark web’ talking about wanting to buy a ‘caged child’ to sexually abuse.

And there are parents who abuse their children in this way. So whilst these ‘theories’ may be about families, there are indeed evil parents.

These men are evil. I do not care what they may have endured themselves in life, this is evil at work. There is no excuse, no justification, no reason that explains why men want to sexually abuse children in this way.

How dare anyone suggest these children, are not victims. Are not angels – so in some way responsible. And how dare anyone suggest these men are anything less than evil, villains, demons.

These men are indeed ‘demons’ and they are evil.

These children, are ‘angels’ -they are innocent, beautiful, vulnerable children being abused in the most heinous way, anyone can be abused.

These two news stories alone, prove these ‘theories’ dreamed up by mental health professionals, are nothing more than minimizing, invalidating, irrational bullshit, based on lies, that do nothing but harm those who know evil exists – because they have endured it.

And I’m sure these theories, help these ‘professionals’ sit there with the evil people and help them to believe they are helping these evil people. And I’m sure it helps these ‘professionals’ to take money from the evil people and to sleep well at night.

These ‘men’ are not acting ‘predictably’ due to their life experiences at all. If it was a matter of predictable behaviour, and being abused – leading to abusing others………. then how come there are many of us who were heinously abused, all our childhoods… and ‘don’t’ abuse other people or children, at all????

Abusing children in this way, and enjoying it, is a choice. A choice that means the person has no empathy, no conscience, no regard for human suffering and enjoys human suffering. Which is the definition of evil. And also the definition of a psychopath.

Anyone who chooses to believe in these bullshit theories, that make evil people ‘seem better’ than they are and invalidate the suffering these victims endure and invalidate the intentional motivations of these ‘people’ …….. is someone lacking in all rational thinking, lacking in any courage to face the truth, and should absolutely not be working with abusers, or their victims.

There are angels. There are demons.

There are victims. There are villains.

There are completely innocent people. There are evil people.

And to think differently, is bullshit.

And I explained all this, quite clearly to my counsellor today. Who sadly I have lost much respect for and trust in.

All this does is enforce my understanding, that people will believe any shit they want, to make their lives easier and rarely does the courage for truth, factor in most people’s belief systems.

The comforting lie, is always easier, than the painful truth. Continue reading