I thought my current painful emotions, were grieving and feeling abandoned. Until reading this..
“The shame that often goes with strong attachment to your therapist. Shame is a sad consequence of trauma. There is no reason to feel ashamed of caring about a person who has been very helpful to you. The reason for the shame is usually that, long ago, a child yearned for closeness with someone who could not or would not give it. Faced with repeated rejection, we naturally internalize the value that to yearn is bad. The conscience then generates feelings of shame every time we find ourselves having longing feelings.” (link at end of blog)..
Now, after reading this, I realise there are also deep feelings of shame. I did try to voice my feelings, and completely humiliated myself. I realise the feelings of humiliation, are shame.
I would do anything to take back what I said. I should have kept those feelings to myself.
I think there are many areas of shame, due to my childhood, that I have not dealt with.
And now I have no-one to talk about them to.
July 14, 2016 at 10:21 am
This post had a big impact on me!
I now have a deeper understanding of so many things I experience.
Brought about a huge breakthrough to seeing exactly how shame is deeply imbedded in all areas of myself.
So grateful for this post!
July 14, 2016 at 4:14 pm
I’m glad if I can help you to have a deeper understanding Jules. To feel understood and understand ourselves, is a much needed part of this journey.
Much love, Lilly ❤