Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

The shame of attachment to your therapist


I thought my current painful emotions, were grieving and feeling abandoned. Until reading this..

“The shame that often goes with strong attachment to your therapist. Shame is a sad consequence of trauma. There is no reason to feel ashamed of caring about a person who has been very helpful to you. The reason for the shame is usually that, long ago, a child yearned for closeness with someone who could not or would not give it. Faced with repeated rejection, we naturally internalize the value that to yearn is bad. The conscience then generates feelings of shame every time we find ourselves having longing feelings.” (link at end of blog)..

Now,  after reading this, I realise there are also deep feelings of shame. I did try to voice my feelings, and completely humiliated myself. I realise the feelings of humiliation, are shame.

I would do anything to take back what I said. I should have kept those feelings to myself.

I think there are many areas of shame, due to my childhood, that I have not dealt with.

And now I have no-one to talk about them to.


Attachment to Your Therapist: Saying Good Bye



Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “The shame of attachment to your therapist

  1. This post had a big impact on me!

    I now have a deeper understanding of so many things I experience.

    Brought about a huge breakthrough to seeing exactly how shame is deeply imbedded in all areas of myself.

    So grateful for this post!