It’s interesting how as an abuse survivor, you are meant to speak up for yourself, speak about what has happened, what you have endured. This is deemed as being ’empowered’.
Yet when you do speak up, you have to defend what you say, against people who want to ‘re-word’ and ‘re-frame’ your experiences. Invalidating and minimizing in the process. Which is about ‘their’ needs and not mine.
Even though the abuse being discussed is what ‘I’ endured, not them.
I am really tired of it.
I am really over it.
What is the point of speaking up, to be told you’re not speaking about this – the way someone else wants to hear it?
This is exactly the kind of thing that makes me want to give up.
It makes me want to just keep everything to myself. Continue reading