Feedback for Lilly Hope Lucario – “I am so thankful and inspired by your work. You’re a true healer”.

I put myself in a vulnerable position, when I share my deeper and more complex areas of my journey, on social media. It opens me up – to receiving shitty & nasty responses, trolls etc. And I have my share of these.

But, when I see feedback like this and comments that are similar, I know it makes the vulnerability – worth it.

I don’t believe I have all the answers, or insight into every journey to healing complex trauma. But, I do have insight into mine, and an ability to express that and share that, with others. In a way that helps validate, helps support. Helps people understand themselves more.

For that, I am thankful.

When narcissists delude themselves into believing they are INFJ’s.

INFJ – is one of the personality types in the Myers Briggs Personality tests, which are based upon the work of Carl Jung.

I am an INFJ. I have a strong sense of justice, intuition, right and wrong, a capacity for empathy and motivation matters to me. These strengths, are usually far more developed in INFJ’s, than average.

I read an article the other day, how when narcissistic people take these tests, their delusion based answers, can give them a result of being an INFJ.

‘Sensitivity’ is something that is often confused and plays into this delusion. Being oversensitive to criticism, and always reacting badly and immaturely, is narcissism. Whereas, being aware and sensitive of the needs and emotions of others, is empathic sensitivity. There is a huge difference between these. The former, is all about self and self serving. The latter is about others, and others centred.

A popular INFJ page, has posts which are more narcissistic based motivations, than empathy based motivations. They include hurting others, and a sense of entitlement to do that, with no conscience and no remorse.

The posts are often ‘me me me’ based. With little thought as to the effect of this on others. Doesn’t sound empathic to me. Sounds narcissistic to me.

Having considered the posts and the reaction to one post – where I disagreed – it became clear – the admin and other commenters, were in fact narcissistic in their attitudes and responses. They justified their harmful behaviours. Classic narcissism.

Feedback on Twitter, that shows I am fulfilling my goals.

Some feedback on Twitter…

“Lilly, I LOVE your way of telling truth, no sugar coating or spiritualizing. It is one hell of a road to travel.

(Another Twitter follower) & I are fans because you are so freaking fresh & real & you name what I have suffered.

We love you.”

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I’m always feel so thankful when I receive feedback like this, because I know how important honesty, being transparent, upfront and dealing in reality  – are to complex trauma survivors.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario