I am a great believer, in we can only heal what we choose to acknowledge and choose to deal with.
I also know the depths of pain and suffering and grieving, due to complex trauma – need to be processed slowly. So not to overwhelm us completely.
I have needed to take my healing journey a lot slower than I would have liked. But, it was and still is – the speed it needs to be. I no longer criticise myself for how long it is taking. I have taken that unnecessary burden and sham…e it creates – off the table. And I have replaced it with self compassion.
There are many layers of trauma involved in complex trauma. There are many layers of emotions and pain. There is whole complex grieving process to go through. This cannot be a quick process. Trying to heal quickly, only forces us to suppress that which needs healing. And then healing is very limited., as a result.
It takes time, and every journey is different. We cannot compare and all we can each do, is focus on our own specific journey, our own unique needs and allow the healing journey to take it’s own pace.
We need this self compassion and self patience. Both of which, are very difficult for many of us, but something we all need to develop. Our healing is dependent on these and they are a part of the journey and they take time as well.