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Jeff Brown about why people try to shut down those who have the courage to deal with the truth about abuse

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“So many people get judged when they refuse to put their pain away. They get judged for showing it, for speaking it, for insisting on sharing their memories of abuse with those they know.

I am not talking about those overwhelming strangers with their stuff—I am talking about legitimate sharings with those they are connected with in daily life. All too often, they are fed one repressive message or another: “Don’t look back,” “What’s done is done,” “Don’t be a victim,” “Your feelings are an illusion,” “Be strong.”

What is ironic about this is that those who insist on embodying and expressing their feelings are actually the courageous ones—unwilling and unable to live a false life. Their stuff is breaking through their defenses because they are tired of carrying the weight of buried truths. They want a healthier and more authentic life.

Those who seek to shame their revealings are actually less courageous, turning to repressive mantras in an effort to bypass their own unresolved feelings and memories. If they can shut others down, they can remain shut down themselves. But shut down doesn’t take us anywhere good. If we don’t deal with our stuff, it deals with us.

May we all speak our truths, before our buried truths destroy us. Out with the old, in with the true… “

Jeff Brown ~an excerpt from ‘Spiritual Graffiti’

Jeff is on Facebook @ https://www.facebook.com/SOULSHAPING/

I highly recommend his works, posts, books and insight.

Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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  1. I just found this blog and I love it, this was something I definitely needed to read. I suffered abuse for most of my life at the hands of family and close friends and this is the first year I have truly opened up about my life. The responses have been more mixed than I had anticipated. On one hand, I have a few family members and friends who applaud me for sharing my story but on the other, I have those who I thought were my friends who have gotten upset with me for ‘not telling them everything before’ or that my life is too depressing and maybe I should keep it to myself. My own husband even got mad at me because he read about an experience on my blog I had never told him about before. Please keep doing what you’re doing! It’s such an incredible feeling to see someone else out there like me. I hate anyone had to suffer but I am thankful I am not alone.