I am not thankful for all the abuse I have endured in my life….. I don’t thank abusers for the harm they inflict. I don’t do all that shallow rationalising that I somehow ‘needed’ to be abused, to help others.
But, I am glad I am someone able to use all the trauma I have endured, to help others – through an understanding of lived experience.
Spiritual abuse is something I have endured. Grooming from a pastor, narcissistic abuse from him, his wife, the senior pastor and most of the flock, who sided with the abusers, as often happens.
Toxic churches handle abuse really badly. They re-traumatise the victims over and over. Too many toxic churches and toxic church people victim blame, victim shame, and protect the abusers. It goes on a lot in the more conservative, fundamentalist churches.
I know the pain and suffering this causes.
I have such compassion for people who have endured spiritual abuse, which is also emotional and psychological abuse.
Spiritual abuse is severe abuse and greatly impacts people’s lives.
Compassion is needed for people treated horrendously by toxic church people, and I have compassion.
It can greatly affect someone’s faith and I have compassion for that too. I have no judgment of the struggle many have due to spiritual abuse. I have no judgment of people turning away from their faith. It happens and I have empathy.
Spiritual abuse survivors needs support, compassion and understanding. And that’s what I offer.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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