Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

How toxic people often deal with the abuse they inflict ~ Lilly Hope Lucario



Sadly, these are also some of the attitudes of survivors of abuse too. They choose to minimize or invalidate their own trauma and other people’s trauma, to cope. And they then demand other people do the same. They can also make excuses for the abuser – to make it all feel better. Or they will demand that ‘forgiveness’ is necessary and shame other survivors, or demand ‘forgive and forget’ is the way to deal with it. They will also use phrases such as ‘let it go, move on’.

All unhealthy attitudes, that do not aid healing. So, I do advise people ignore such unhealthy attitudes.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle.

3 thoughts on “How toxic people often deal with the abuse they inflict ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. Thank you so much for the strong way this post stands against bullying victims!!

    This post helped me to deal with family members who are bullying and scapegoating me because I’m telling the truth and they want it all to go away.

  2. This was and is my family, all over.😦

  3. Hello, I have complex trauma. Thank you for your help in understanding.

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