My skill level for discerning toxic people, has been validated, once again.
I very quickly discerned a liar, who was claiming to have PTSD – very quickly. Yet, for many harmed by him – sadly it was months, and sometimes years – before they began to doubt him.
Sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists, can be very charming, very ‘believable’ and unless you know the signs, the red flags to watch for…. it is very easy to be duped by them.
But, due to being raised by these heinous toxic people types, I do know the red flags to look for.
I was right all along.
And no matter the trolling, abuse, threats, and all the ‘flying monkeys’ who joined in with him to abuse others and me …….. I stuck it out in exposing him. I didn’t want anymore people harmed by him.
And now I have the Daily Mail (UK) asking me to contribute to an article they are doing about him and all his lies and exploiting.
No-one – not even me – should ever question my capacity to discern toxic people and quickly.
I do not ignore the red flags anymore. Because, that always leads to trouble and being abused.
A part of me feels very sad, that my capacity to discern toxic people, comes from a terribly painful childhood, full of the worst kinds of heinous abuse.
And I don’t do the rationalising abuse BS, that many seem to take comfort in. I’m not glad I endured all I did. I don’t believe I ‘needed’ to be abused, to become stronger. I don’t thank abusers, for anything. Continue reading