I discussed in counselling today how much stronger I am feeling atm.
But, I also discussed how people who have endured complex trauma, have different abilities to heal and recover. For many reasons, which are of no fault of their own.
And how wrong it is, when people assume every single complex trauma survivor ‘must’ be a stronger survivor and a healing success story.
Which is so wrong. And shames many in the process. …
I see society, too many mental health professionals, and too many people who have been abused, believe that every person who has been abused horrifically – must be somehow stronger than those who have not endured complex trauma.
Which doesn’t even make sense. Often survivors are held up to standards of strength and courage – non complex trauma survivors are not even expected to demonstrate.
Many complex trauma survivors – will not become healed strong survivors.
Many barely survive the trauma.
Many complex trauma survivors will struggle every day.
And that IS OKAY.
And how dare anyone say it is not.
Some complex trauma survivors will be deeply affected to a severe level, all their lives.
And NO-ONE should be judging them as weak, or making them feel they are not ‘good enough’ or comparing them to others.
Regardless of how much healing I can achieve, I will NEVER make others feel shame, for not healing to the same level. And I will never put myself or others up on platforms/ pedestals – as ‘healing success stories’.
And NO-ONE should be comparing people – either positively or negatively.
Complex trauma survivors have suffered enough.
Stop shaming them, for not being what anyone else expects, or demands.
And stop putting other people who have recovered in full, up on pedestals – making those who for no fault of their own – cannot achieve the same, feel shame.
And my counsellor agreed – this is absolutely correct and a greater level of empathy, than many are capable of.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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