There are some wounds that may never heal and I am at peace with this now.
The child sexual abuse I endured as a child, was the worst abuse I endured – as in the life long, deep, core wounds impact. Especially knowing my own mother was complicit in it. That has created deep wounds I will never recover from.
Abuse survivors, are often made to feel like all wounds ‘have’ to be healed. But, I don’t believe that.
Some people will heal all wounds, and some won’t. That’s the reality. And there is no shame in that, no matter what others say.
But, I am determined that despite the wounds that aren’t healing and likely won’t…. I am still creating a life for myself, that has joy, love, fun, purpose and meaning.
I liken this to someone who loses limbs. Their life is never the same and there are some things they will never be capable of…. but their life can still be a good life, with many areas of their life being wonderful.
I deal with reality and the reality is – for some people not all wounds will heal. And demanding all abuse survivors heal all wounds, simply shames some – that won’t achieve that unreasonable expectation.
More insights, I have come to realise, on my own journey.
And if anyone wants to suggest that is ‘not good enough’ – they can take a hike!
Because I don’t let anyone shame me.
~ Lilly Hope Lucario
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