Too many un-empathic people, tell other people they should be feeling positive emotions, when many people are in a place where they cannot, and do not have to.
I don’t police how complex trauma survivors ‘should’ be feeling. Or shame them in the process, by suggesting they should feel or be doing better than they are. Especially at holiday times, when emotions and loneliness, are even worse.
People in very painful, dark places, cannot feel positive emotions, and that is okay.
And it takes someone who has been there, and knows how much empathy is needed – to express this. Continue reading