Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

A journey to healing from complex trauma.

So so sad for a 13 year old boy, who ended his life for 2 years of bullying, about being gay ~ Lilly Hope Lucario


Bullying is abuse, and it is never okay. I am so sick of hearing excuses for people who feel entitled to abuse others.

A boy who lives near me, ended his life, because he was abused every day in school for 2 years. It started in grade 5 and continued on until grade 7. Every day he was called names like faggot, gay boy and teased because he was feminine.

I know what it feels like, to be that age and be in so much pain, you desperately want it to end. Different type of abuse, but that overwhelming pain and suffering, is so terrible.

Being LGBTIQ does not make you a bad person.

But, being an abuser and getting enjoyment from abusing someone else, does make you a bad person.

I am SO SICK of hearing – “oh but the abuser must be in pain too”. For a start that is an assumption, and some abusers have not been abused themselves.





I’ve been in horrendous pain. Abused horrifically and I have NEVER wanted to abuse someone.



It is BULLSHIT that being in pain ‘makes’ someone an abuser.

THEY CHOOSE to be an abuser.

They could also choose not to be.

A boy, is now dead. In fact, thousands of children and teenagers are ending their life every month around the world – due to abuse. His life is gone, ended. It ended before it really even started.



This all comes down to a lack of empathy, a lack of conscience and a lack of shame, guilt and remorse. And society normalising this and encouraging it.

It’s all the traits of narcissists, sociopaths and psychopaths.

And what do most people want to do………… fucking make excuses and make the abusers seem less heinous.

Normalising abusers, minimizing abuse, making excuses, rationalising abuse, and all the other cognitively distorted thinking patterns…….. are why abuse is increasing and bullying is an epidemic in schools.

I will not join in this enabling of abuse.

I will not join in with making excuses for abuse.

Because, I have a conscience.

~ Lilly Hope Lucario

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Author: Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD

I am a survivor of complex and multiple trauma and abuse, who at the age of 40, began my healing journey. I am using my journey to recovery and healing, to help others, to help survivors feel less alone, validated, encouraged and to enable others to understand themselves more. Complex trauma, particularly from severe, prolonged childhood abuse, is profoundly life changing. Complex trauma produces complex adults. The journey to recovery is a painful, often lonely, emotional daily challenge and it is my aim to encourage others in their daily battle. ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

2 thoughts on “So so sad for a 13 year old boy, who ended his life for 2 years of bullying, about being gay ~ Lilly Hope Lucario

  1. So heartbreaking.

    It’s reached the point where this is happening so often that the bully needs be to charged with murder.

    He didn’t commit suicide.

    He was bullied to death.

    Same as being stabbed to death.